Urban Poly Princess

Alright not really. First my Tongan friend Elenoa came over with dinner from Mo Bettah Steaks-Yummy AND I didn't have to pay for it!!! The ONLY thing better is if she was a fine guy!!!
My uncle who lives in Smithfield also came over. I quickly made a plate for him from my food BECAUSE that's what U do when U R Tongan!!! It was nice to have him visit me. Tongan is Noa's first language so they spoke Tongan. I have to concentrate but I can understand what they say. I spoke English while they spoke Tongan. I have the vocabulary down. I just can't do the connecting words and sometimes I miss some words. I have to actively listen and pay attention.

It's funny how I can fall into my culture mode so quickly. We were watching Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Angelina Jolie has a scene where she poses as a hooker before killing someone. I QUICKLY shut that thing off. Brothers and sisters don't even watch movies together because even watching a kissing scene is disrespectful. When I was at the Y I made a road trip with my friends to the now BYU-Idaho. I met a relative of mine for the first time. He grew up with my friend Lata who went with us. We were walking in their football stadium as my other friends who played football at the U tried to relive their glory days.
There were some guys there in their own group. One of them starting swearing. He wasn't swearing at us. Swearing in front of your sisters or relatives is extremely disrespectful. My relative was about to beat this guy up. Instead the other boys talked to my relative and this guy who was swearing. People calmed down and nothing bad happened. We went to the Galleria where one of my U friends Sonny Kaufusi used to DJ. The club was fun and the owner was very sweet-at the end of the night when everyone was gone he bought us pizza and let us have the place to ourselves for a few hours. He loved Sonny and was happy to do it. Sonny told us how he let them use the club with all proceeds raised for several Poly missionaries. Each missionary had their own fundraising day at the Galleria. This was veeery nice.

Sonny was in his prime then. He was such a sweetheart. He's not ugly but physically he didn't do it for me. Everything else though was AMAZING-He worked at a home for troubled youth, he was majoring in Psychology-actually this was annoying because every time I talked to him I felt like he was analyzing anything I said. He was an RM and that was incredible for a naive 17-year-old. He invited my friends and I often to hear him speak AND he was a dynamic speaker. Utah has a football obsession and just because Sonny played football EVERYONE wanted to talk to him ALL the time. He usually spoke at youth firesides. He knew how to work a room for sure.

Now he's been divorced twice and has a daughter from someone other than either of his ex-wives. If someone told me this was his future I NEVER would've believed them. He invited me to San Francisco with him for Christmas. YEAH RIGHT!!! we were just friends and I had to tell him REALLY???!!! I'm Tongan REMEMBER. He had white girls he took home with him before BUT yeah NOOO-My father would skin me alive and my relatives would skin him.

He was sooo spiritual to me in my inexperienced little world and I actually prayed about him although I didn't love him-I thought with divine assistance I could get over my lack of attraction because he just seemed so perfect. I had a dream that we were married and living in Las Vegas-I don't know how I knew we were in Las Vegas-I just did. I was very unhappy although nothing told me why that would be. Sooo thanks to that dream I remained friends with Sonny but I never did anything beyond that.

Sonny lives in Tonga now. I've seen pictures of him. He looks good at least. He did end up going to school in Las Vegas. My friend told me he was sleeping with a variety of women, drinking and just NOT in good shape spiritually. Her husband told her he thought Sonny would become the first Tongan GA. I told her he husband was right and that when I knew Sonny he loved the gospel and frequently gave talks at youth firesides. My friend Kefu had a hard time believing that which is an indication of how hard he fell. I saw him on Facebook and added him but he ignored my friend request. I probably remind him of how much he's changed.

So much for my trip down memory lane. Later right before my mission AND right after I fell hard for my friend-ironically ANOTHER David-Spritually awesome, physically gorgeous, and intelligent enough although NOT as intelligent as Sonny. He teaches at BYU-Hawaii now where we met as students. This is the first man I ever loved BUT I learned a valuable lesson I am extremely grateful for-Love isn't enough. It doesn't solve everything. It's wonderful BUT you can get over it and you can move on. Often it's better if you do.

The 2nd man I fell for was stupid on sooo many levels. One day soon I'll write about that. I'm not ready for the depths of stupidity it would require me to review.

Instead I'll write about my lack of a social life right now. That -L word keeps appearing in my head for someone I care about too much for the limited time I've spent with him. Spiritually he is the best I've ever known which is reason enough for me to want this, intellectually he is the best too-BUT his ability to get on my nerves is also the best-he is very feisty but I like that. I haven't known him very long but the drama has been there almost immediately. The spirit likes him VERY much for me however and I need to trust that-I just know this is NOT going to be a piece of cake-he's already treated me badly-and not just once. It's never intentional. I know that-it makes me feel a little better but just a little and it still hurts and it still sucks. He used to be a lot more introverted and it explains his lack of sensitivity to stuff I think should be common sense. I really think we're in a good place now but part of me expects something to upset that. He has helped me review my own weaknesses however and I know I also need to exercise more humility and tamp down the attitude.