Urban Poly Princess

I took Lulu to FHE with me. She went to Parley's ward for a long time... over 10 years AND although she loved it she was telling me some things. She was saying how mousy men - the bulk of the LDS men in the Midsingles wards or rather ANY Singles wards, YSA wards included, want petite blond women. There's nothing wrong with that I suppose. I want someone hot who dresses well and is secure mentally, emotionally, spiritually AND is also kind and brilliant. I know there is a lot of truth to what she said because when I don't wear make up and wear my glasses OR look like and feel like a dog, the white men come out of the woodwork to flirt with me BUUUT that's not who I am at all. Why is that such a huge deal. I'm not going to change who I am to find my husband. Can't I just find someone who likes the way I look, that wants me to wear makeup and dress up if I want to do that. Why is that such a turnoff or on. I have to admit I love a man that knows how to dress.

It's a little like when Steve told me at FHE at Mike's house that he really liked Pacific Islanders. He also always wants to know what I liked more, living in Tonga or Hawaii or here. I know I'm Polynesian, I'm not from Mars. When people are too into my ethnicity I don't really like that because it seems like they are interested in a character, a caricature, NOT the real me. I u someone who wants me and is interested in me NOOOT just some exotic unusual thing. I'm not a novelty