Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Wednesday

Posted by 2DI4 at 12:44 PM

Missionary meeting. I was glad this was well-attended. We have A LOT of girls who are ward missionaries. What about calling more guys? Porter, Rich and Jon and another John was just called that I don't know. Trish, Lori, Lori Loesh, Lucy, Me, Esther Taylor and Beth Webster. Lori, Trish and Lucy have been ward missionaries for a long time. So 4 guys and 7 girls. We need more men. I'm excited to teach gospel principles this week. It's on the scriptures so it is easy peasy BUUUT I still need to be prepared so the spirit can slam those who attend.

I just got my license emailed to me. The issued date is 2/10/2014 but my CE credits were taken on 2/6/2014. I hope they still count. I just heard they don't so I took Agency for fun. I'm VERY glad it only cost me $25. I should've brought my tax stubs. GRRR!!! I took my complete flex-spending amount. I'm trying to see if I can FINALLY get a refund this year. It would be fantastic to pay all my fees with refund money plus pay for my car tune-up and then rent and other fun bills.

Love Your Wife -lds.org site
If a husband will put his wife’s needs above his own, his love for her will increase. 
“It will take faith and humility to put her interests above your own in the struggles of life,” President Eyring says. “You have the responsibility to provide for and to nurture the family with her while serving others. That can at times consume all the energy and strength you have. Age and illness may increase your wife’s needs. If you choose even then to put her happiness above your own, I promise you that your love for her will increase.”1

A Sacred Responsibility

Elder Russell M. Nelson of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles explains the responsibility that husbands have to love their wives. He says that of all priesthood duties, a husband’s primary responsibility is to his wife.
“Priesthood offices, keys, callings, and quorums are meant to exalt families,” he says. “Priesthood authority has been restored so that families can be sealed eternally. So brethren, your foremost priesthood duty is to nurture your marriage—to care for, respect, honor, and love your wife. Be a blessing to her and your children.”2
Another way husbands can be a blessing to their wives is by “[keeping] alive the spirit of romance in [their] marriage,” Elder Nelson says. “Be considerate and kind in the tender intimacies of your married life. Let your thoughts and actions inspire confidence and trust. Let your words be wholesome and your time together be uplifting. Let nothing in life take priority over your wife—neither work, recreation, nor hobby.”3
Elder Nelson teaches that “expressions of love and appreciation do more than acknowledge a kind thought or deed. … As grateful partners look for the good in each other and sincerely pay compliments to one another, wives and husbands will strive to become the persons described in those compliments.”
And he adds: “Above all, do not be selfish! Generate a spirit of selflessness and generosity. Celebrate and commemorate each day together as a treasured gift from heaven.”
He also teaches that husbands should frequently express love to their wives: “Do you tell your wife often how very much you love her? It will bring her great happiness. I’ve heard men tell me when I say that, ‘Oh, she knows.’ You need to tell her. A woman grows and is greatly blessed by that reassurance. Express gratitude for what your spouse does for you. Express that love and gratitude often.”5

Help Each Other

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles teaches about the love and support husbands and wives should share: “One of the great purposes of true love is to help each other. … We can endure almost anything if we have someone at our side who truly loves us, who is easing the burden and lightening the load.”
He also explains that “love is a fragile thing, and some elements in life can try to break it. Much damage can be done if we are not in tender hands, caring hands. To give ourselves totally to another person, as we do in marriage, is the most trusting step we take in any human relationship. It is a real act of faith—faith all of us must be willing to exercise. If we do it right, we end up sharing everything—all our hopes, all our fears, all our dreams, all our weaknesses, and all our joys—with another person.”
Elder Holland points to the need for selfless caring: “True love blooms when we care more about another person than we care about ourselves. That is Christ’s great atoning example for us, and it ought to be more evident in the kindness we show, the respect we give, and the selflessness and courtesy we employ in our personal relationships.”6
I decided to read this instead of a conference talk today. I admire my friend's relationship with her husband so much. They have such a strong bond and he isn't as smart or as fun as my friend. He is fresh as in "fresh off the boat" and she isn't. Despite that they've built a beautiful relationship. It really is true that you can make it work with anyone. So what the hell is my problem? I know she is why they have such an amazing marriage and I know she'd have that with anyone. He isn't beautiful either. She is way more attractive than he is BUT she is very happy. What do I need to do to accept someone who isn't exactly what I want? I just don't want to marry someone stupid or who can't relate to everything I can. Is that wrong? I know no one's going to be perfect. I know so much is dependent on what I do BUUUT what is wrong with me. Why can't I do that with the MANY choices I have in my ward. I DON'T want to live here after I can leave this place. I DON'T want to raise my family here.  
It is her second marriage and her first husband died of cancer. He raised the 3 girls she had with her 1st and they had 2 more children together. Her first husband was sealed to her in the temple. Her second husband however has been a bishop. They attend the temple every week together AND have a date night every Friday.  I knew her first husband and he was very good-looking and outgoing. To me there is no comparison. Despite that they are both very happy together now and she is probably the most positive person I know. I grew up with her in Tonga and her parents went to BYU-Hawaii when mine did. She lived at Liahona campus like I did at first. They had this huge decorative fountain in front of the high school business office. We would take our Barbie dolls, something you couldn't buy in Tonga and something Tongan kids definitely DID NOT play with, and play with them at the fountain. Memories.
We attended elementary school together at the only English-speaking elementary school Tonga Side School and then JR High School/High School at Liahona High School. I was only there for form 1 and the beginning of form 2. That is like 7th and 8th grades. Her mother is Maori/Chinese raised in New Zealand and her dad is Tongan. Her brother married my cousin and is a CPA. They live in Lehi. 







 

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