Saturday, May 4, 2013

ULA day 2!!!

Posted by 2DI4 at 9:56 AM

I met a Samoan librarian for the first time. His name is Abraham King and he is a branch manager at a library in St. George. He is married and has a young daughter. He and his wife want to return to Samoa some day although he said there is a large Samoan community in St. George. He didn't like the multi-cultural workshop he attended which he said focused on if you are a white librarian how to respond to people from different cultures. I didn't attend it although I always find it amusing when people who aren't from a minority culture attempt to tell people how to perform outreach to diverse or minority communities. We are both going to join that committee and make sure we have a voice and AT LEAST represent the Polynesian community there.


There was a young and FINE librarian there that seemed to end up in EVERY workshop I attended. He even went to the one I presented at or our intellectual freedom committee presentation. He has a short pony tail and he is something other than white. At first I could dismiss this BUT then he JOINED our committee. His name is Maurizio so I suppose he's Italian. He works at the City Library and I think he is a newly minted librarian because the new librarian Wanda recruited for our committee last year came to our meeting with him. Stephanie graduated 3 months ago and I suspect he did too. Attractive AND young male librarians I thought didn't exist. Female librarians aren't much better which is probably why he was following me all over the place although he was smooth about that. 

I just look a lot younger than I am BUT enough guys have done this to me for me to know when someone's interested in me. That is why my friend gets on my nerves. The signs are all there BUT his follow-through may or may not happen. I've never doubted his interest although I doubt his desire to do anything about that. I feel like he likes me but that he wishes he didn't. That is so strange to me. He dates the world and he did have a girlfriend he traveled with to Hawaii so he has at least tried to make something work with someone. 

I am horrible with relationships so for me to think I know ANYTHING is ridiculous. I always want men to be perfect and treat me like gold ALL the time. If anyone mistreats me that is the end. HOWEVER I don't think this is a healthy characteristic and I don't treat men I like well ALL the time either, I have a bad temper and I don't have a problem showing this when I lose it. I do want someone with a backbone. There are men who will ALWAYS do what I want ALL the time BUT I feel like that's fake and nice in the beginning but then that just becomes irritating. 

2 Nephi 21

 1 aAnd there shall bcome forth a rod out of the cstem of Jesse, and a dbranch shall grow out of his roots.
 2 And the aSpirit of the Lord shall rest upon him, the spirit ofbwisdom and cunderstanding, the spirit of counsel and might, the spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the Lord;
 3 And shall make him of quick understanding in the fear of the Lord; and he shall not ajudge after the sight of his eyes, neither reprove after the hearing of his ears.
 4 But with arighteousness shall he bjudge the poor, and reprove with equity for the cmeek of the earth; and he shall dsmite the earth with the erod of his mouth, and with the breath of his lips shall he slay the wicked.
 5 And arighteousness shall be the girdle of his loins, and faithfulness the girdle of his reins.
Beautiful Isaiah writing about the Savior!!!
Marriage: Watch and Learn
First, I have observed that in the happiest marriages both the husband and wife consider their relationship to be a pearl beyond price, a treasure of infinite worth. 
They understand that they walk a divinely ordained path. They know that no other relationship of any kind can bring as much joy, generate as much good, or produce as much personal refinement. Watch and learn: the best marriage partners regard their marriages as priceless.
Faith is the foundation of every virtue that strengthens marriage. Strengthening faith strengthens marriage. Faith grows as we keep the commandments, and so do the harmony and joy in marriage. Thus, keeping the commandments is fundamental to establishing strong eternal marriages. 
Next, faith. Successful eternal marriages are built on the foundation of faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and adherence to His teachings.1 I have observed that couples who have made their marriages priceless practice the patterns of faith: they attend sacrament and other meetings every week, hold family home evening, pray and study the scriptures together and as individuals, and pay an honest tithing. Their mutual quest is to be obedient and good. They do not consider the commandments to be a buffet from which they can pick and choose only the most appealing offerings.
Third, repentance. I have learned that happy marriages rely on the gift of repentance. It is an essential element in every good marital relationship. Spouses who regularly conduct honest self-examination and promptly take needed steps to repent and improve experience a healing balm in their marriages. Repentance helps restore and maintain harmony and peace.
Humility is the essence of repentance. Humility is selfless, not selfish. It doesn’t demand its own way or speak with moral superiority. Instead, humility answers softly2 and listens kindly for understanding, not vindication. Humility recognizes that no one can change someone else, but with faith, effort, and the help of God, we can undergo our ownmighty change of heart.3 Experiencing the mighty change of heart causes us to treat others, especially our spouses, with meekness.4 Humility means that both husbands and wives seek to bless, help, and lift each other, putting the other first in every decision. Watch and learn: repentance and humility build happy marriages.
Fourth, respect. I have observed that in wonderful, happy marriages, husbands and wives treat each other as equal partners. Practices from any place or any time in which husbands have dominated wives or treated them in any way as second-class partners in marriage are not in keeping with divine law and should be replaced by correct principles and patterns of behavior.


Husbands and wives in great marriages make decisions unanimously, with each of them acting as a full participant and entitled to an equal voice and vote.5 They focus first on the home and on helping each other with their shared responsibilities.6 Their marriages are based on cooperation, not negotiation. Their dinner hour and the family time that follows become the center of their day and the object of their best efforts. They turn off electronics and forgo personal entertainment in order to help with household duties. To the extent possible, they read with their children every night and both participate in putting the little ones to bed. They retire to their bed together. As their duties and circumstances permit, husbands and wives work side by side in doing the most important work there is—the work we do in our own homes.
Where there is respect, there is also transparency, which is a key element of happy marriages. There are no secrets about relevant matters in marriages based on mutual respect and transparency. Husbands and wives make all decisions about finances together, and both have access to all information.
Loyalty is a form of respect. Prophets teach that successful marriage partners are “fiercely loyal” to each other.7 They keep their social media use fully worthy in every way. They permit themselves no secret Internet experiences. They freely share with each other their social network passwords. They do not look at the virtual profiles of anyone in any way that might betray the sacred trust of their spouse. They never do or say anything that approaches the appearance of impropriety, either virtually or physically. Watch and learn: terrific marriages are completely respectful, transparent, and loyal.
Fifth, love. The happiest marriages I have seen radiate obedience to one of the happiest commandments—that we “live together in love.”8Speaking to husbands, the Lord commanded, “Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else.”9 A Church handbook teaches: “The word cleave means to be completely devoted and faithful to someone. Married couples cleave to God and one another by serving and loving each other and by keeping covenants in complete fidelity to one another and to God.” Both the husband and wife “leave behind their single life and establish their marriage as [their] first priority. … They allow no other person or interest to have greater priority … than keeping the covenants they have made with God and each other.”10 Watch and learn: successful couples love each other with complete devotion.
One of the sweetest verses in the Book of Mormon states simply, “And they were married, and given in marriage, and were blessed according to the multitude of the promises which the Lord had made unto them.”13The promises of the Lord are extended to all those who follow the pattern of life that builds happy, holy marriage relationships. Such blessings come as the delightful, predictable consequences of faithfully living the gospel of Jesus Christ.


 

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