Urban Poly Princess

After church I felt like giving bishop my temple form so I did. People's plans change BUT until mine do I'd like to start working in the temple. Krista was talking to Sione and some other guy in the ward about getting sushi. I asked if Sione was treating and he said yes. Krista tried to change that I need to have a little chat with her-Poly boys R used to treating and often abuse non-Poly girls to treat them. There is no way in hell I'm eating anywhere without the Poly boy picking up the tab. Just. NOT. Happening. He could be related to me or not but he's paying or I'm not going. I need to talk to her about this. Poly Men ALWAYS treat-it doesn't matter who is there, they are going to pick up the tab or they're NOT going to go. The ONLY time this doesn't happen is if they are some Poly player who will get some white girl to pay for them. USUALLY the girl buys them a bunch of other stuff too. I had a lot of player friends and player cousins who would get these poor girls to buy them dinner AND me. I was always their "cousin" whether I was or not.

Poly men are raised to treat their sisters, cousins, and whoever. They are used to doing this. It doesn't mean they are interested in you if they buy you a meal, it is just good manners. If they are interested they are paying for EVERYTHING, ALL THE TIME!!! They get out of their seat for a woman ALL the time, AND they do this for anyone older than them ALL the time. When we are at a Poly party the younger women make plates for the older people AND take them drinks and dessert. They ALWAYS take care of their wife first then parents especially if they are elderly, and then sisters and cousins. I hope it's not wrong that I like this. Once I tried to treat my brother to lunch and he was extremely uncomfortable and couldn't order what he really wanted. I like that. He doesn't mind buying me whatever I want to eat. We weren't raised that way BUT he has a problem with me trying to pay for him. My traditionally raised cousins will buy me anything I want wherever we are. Once I took my cousin Halatoa to the grocery store. He asked me if I needed anything. At the time I needed measuring cups so he bought them for me. That was really nice.

We are having and/or making pie at Mindie's house tomorrow at 7pm. I'm going to make sure I invite Helene, Krista and Rudy. I'm already inviting Sara. I wonder if she's inviting anyone else. It should be interesting. There is also Karen's farewell party for Margaret and the bishop's fireside. David said Mindie's bringing the pie stuff and he wanted blackberry pie. I probably should take something to help to be nice BUUUT then again they didn't ask me to bring anything AND heaven forbid I step on one of their toes EVEN if it is to make it BETTER. David did say he and Mindie would let me know if they needed anything and they didn't do that.